It made the ritual of falling in love seem so easy, in the time frame of 30 minutes, we watched couples make love connections, work-out a few issues and then marry by the end of the show. As we grew older, we realized that when it came to matters of the heart there wasn't a speedy resolution.
In 2010, where Technology and the Internet have taken over the way we communicate, most people find themselves "hooking up" or connecting via the web. From Facebook, Twitter, and dating websites, these conduits have become our society's way of finding love.
People have become so timid to have live interaction with someone of interest, they would rather communicate with them behind a screen. Gone are the days when men and women felt comfortable reaching out to each other with the hopes of having a love connection. Love in real life seemed to offer comfort in knowing that there weren't any twists or surprises, because what we saw, was what we got. If things didn't work out, we would "chalk" it up to incompatibility or bad timing.
Cyber Love has revolutionozed the dating process. In the Cyber Kingdom, one can meet a paramour within the blink of an eye. Most of the tedious work has been done for us. Through technology, we manage to circumvent all of the unnecessarry requirements for a match. When one person shows interest, we have already confirmed the object of our desire's, likes and dislikes as well as the important characteristics we are looking for. In the past, where it took months for favorable or unfavorable traits to manifest, in the Cyber World, one gains ample knowledge of the person they are dealing with before connecting.
However, with all this information at hand, it is still possible to choose the wrong person or become disappointed after many hours of skyping, emailing or texting. Many individuals are able to prolong a relationship via internet measures, but when they eventually meet face to face, sometimes the connections go awry. Perhaps it is because the thrill of mystery has been taken away or maybe because each party has received too much information too soon.
One would think that the more options we have in the Cyber World, that "bad dating" would become a maladie of the past. The Internet has given us more power to date locally, out of state, or across the ocean to another country. In the Cyber Kingdom love has no boundaries, yet we still are plagued by issues of incompatibility, fatal attractions and disappointments.
The most endearing quality about Cyber Dating is that, one is able to live a lifetime in a few seconds. It is an alternative to speed dating. An old-fashioned relationship would take about three months to evolve, where in Cyber country, one may fall in "like" by noon and then by supper time the relationship would have ran its course.
Cyber Dating is the busy person's method of weeding through the incompatible matches, with hopes of finding a soul mate. It has become a crutch for the commitment phobic to fullfill their desires without the hassle of true, meaningfull interaction. It is a clever way for us to elude ourselves into thinking that we are one step closer to finding our true loves.
Although it may seem fun and exciting to have access to thousands of people, thus increasing our chances to find a suitable mate. There are definitely drawbacks to this type of dating. The issue of safety becomes a concern, because we never truly know anyone until we have spent quality time with them. So although all our illusions and fantasies may have been met on the computer screen, how well do we know the individuals we connect with?
Many would respond to this question by saying, that the old-fashioned way of dating presented the same issues, so why prolong the agony? In Cyber Space, we are able to date the Frogs and the Witches in less time, moving forward at warped speeds and eventually gaining access to Mr. or Ms. Right.
After comparing the two methods of dating and conducting my own research, I would have to say, that the matter of love is a numbers game. It's synonymous to going to the casino and playing the slots machine. You may pull the lever and get three of the same objects, and you know within your heart, the next time you pull the lever, you are definitely going to win. The truth is, sometimes you hit the jackpot, and sometimes it is like playing a game of craps, but we still continue to play, because we have hope, and the adrenaline rush gives us a high that is uncomparable to any other feeling in the world.
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